Your presence is a gift to the world,
You're unique and one of the kind.
Your life can be what you want it to be.
Take it one day at a time.
Count your blessings, not your troubles,
And you'll make it through what comes along,
Within you are so many answers,
Understand, have courage, be strong.
Don't put limits on yourself,
Your dreams are waiting to be realized.
Don't leave your important decisions to chance
Reach for your peak, your goal, and your price.
Nothing wastes more energy than worrying
The longer a problem is carried, the heavier it gets.
Don't take things too seriously,
Live a life of serenity, not a life of regrets.
Remember that a little love goes a long way
Remember that a lot goes forever,
Remember that friendship is a wise investment,
Life's treasures are people...together.
Have health and hope and happiness,
Take the time to wish on a star,
And don't ever forget for even a day...
How very special YOU are !
Saturday, July 11, 2009
நினைவுகள்
The special moments
and memories in your life
will never change.
They will always be in your heart
today and forevermore.
and memories in your life
will never change.
They will always be in your heart
today and forevermore.
நட்பு
Always be honest, would you want them to lie to you?
Be there when they need you, or you may wind up alone.
Cheer them on, we all need encouragement now and then.
Don't look for their faults, even if you have none.
Encourage their dreams, what would we be without them?
Forgive them, you just may do something wrong sometime.
Get together often, misery loves company,so does glee.
Have faith in them, the human animalis remarkable.
Include them, you may need to be included sometime.
Just be there when they need you.
Know when they need a hug, and couldn't you use one?
Love them unconditionally, that is the only condition.
Make them feel special, because aren't we all special?
Never forget them. who wants to feel forgotten?
Offer to help, and know when "No thanks" is just politeness.
Praise them honestly and openly.
Quietly disagree, noisy no's make enemies.
Really listen, a frienly ear is a soothing balm
Say you're sorry, don't let them assume it.
Talk frequently, communication is important.
Use good judgment.
Verbalize your feelings!
Wish them luck, hopefully good!
Xamine your motives before you "help" out.
Your words count, use them wisely.
Zip your lips when told a secret.
The Colors of Friendship
Truly great friends
are hard to find
difficult to leave,
and impossible to forget
G. Randolf
Be there when they need you, or you may wind up alone.
Cheer them on, we all need encouragement now and then.
Don't look for their faults, even if you have none.
Encourage their dreams, what would we be without them?
Forgive them, you just may do something wrong sometime.
Get together often, misery loves company,so does glee.
Have faith in them, the human animalis remarkable.
Include them, you may need to be included sometime.
Just be there when they need you.
Know when they need a hug, and couldn't you use one?
Love them unconditionally, that is the only condition.
Make them feel special, because aren't we all special?
Never forget them. who wants to feel forgotten?
Offer to help, and know when "No thanks" is just politeness.
Praise them honestly and openly.
Quietly disagree, noisy no's make enemies.
Really listen, a frienly ear is a soothing balm
Say you're sorry, don't let them assume it.
Talk frequently, communication is important.
Use good judgment.
Verbalize your feelings!
Wish them luck, hopefully good!
Xamine your motives before you "help" out.
Your words count, use them wisely.
Zip your lips when told a secret.
The Colors of Friendship
Truly great friends
are hard to find
difficult to leave,
and impossible to forget
G. Randolf
Monday, July 6, 2009
Do women change after marriage?
This topic came about when I was talking to a friend whose sister was about to get married....She did not want to, but had to because of her mom's compulsion...Why do a lot of us resist marriage? If it is just one of the events in our life? If after marriage, we are going to face the same day and night, but with another person why do we hesitate and try to postpone it as much as we can? Is it just a resistance to change? Or is it much more than that? A feeling of inability of having life in our own hands? Does our life change after marriage?
I was sure before i got married that marriage is just a part of life.My life partner would be one who would assist me in attaining my goals and I in turn would help him out in reaching his goals.So from the beginning I have never been afraid of marriage. I thought it was a positive experience. I have not reached a conclusion that marriage isnt a positive experience. But makes me wonder are we- women all the same after marriage?
Some of my old friends who are now married can talk nothing else other than cooking, their husbands , mother in law, father in law and their babies. A woman's life especially in India falls into the hands of not just her husband but also her father in law, mother in law..This does not mean her parents are not controlling her anymore. And she becomes pulled apart by all of them and does nothing she really wants to do.On top of it there are children? Why is there pressure in the society to have children and sacrifice our lives for the child? Is our life not important enough?When a child comes, he or she becomes the priority. The woman though making a lot of money would want to spend the money on or child's crib then her own fancy shoes.
As for me life was definitely not a big bed of roses. I did make small adjustments to live with my husband.And he made a lot more adjustments for me.But in the light of small joys I have seemed to have lost my sight on the "Big goals of my life".I want to plan my career admist family matters.
What is the ultimate solution for this? It is indeed tough for a woman to settle in her career and then get married(They say there is a biological clock - not to forget what the society will say about an unmarried woman at 30)
Is a woman's life just to sacrifice for her husbands and kids? Do we really change after marriage?
posted by saranya @ 1:17 PM
Thanks to saranya mohan .....
My God, these folks don't know how to love -- that's why they love so easily.
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Friday, July 3, 2009
அன்பு
அன்பு நெஞ்சங்களே,
அன்பு நீரைப் போன்றது. நீரை எந்த குவளையில் ஊற்றுகிறோமோ அந்த வடிவத்தைப் பெறுவது போல் அன்பும் தாயிடம் பாசமாகவும், மனைவியிடம் காதலாகவும், நண்பனிடம் நட்பாகவும், பிள்ளைகளிடம் கண்டிப்பாகவும் வெவ்வேறு வடிவங்களில் வெளிப்படுகிறது.
நன்நிலத்தில் தூவப்பட்ட விதைகள் பயன் தருவதைப் போல் உங்களால் விதைக்கப்படும் அன்பும் மகிழ்சியான வாழ்வைத் தரும். மகிழ்சியைத் தேடி நாம் ஓடாத இடம் இல்லை. ஒவ்வொருவருக்கும் இது ஒவ்வொரு இடத்தில் கிடைக்கிறது. சிலருக்கு வீட்டில், சிலருக்கு கோவிலில், சிலருக்கு கடற்கரையில், சிலருக்கு கடைகளில்.
கடைகளில் விற்கப்படும் சந்தோசம் (போதை வஸ்துகள், சிகரெட்) சிறிது நாட்களில் நம்மை அடிமைப்படுத்தி சகநண்பர்ககளிடம் இருந்தும், மானுட வாழ்கையிலிருந்தும் நம்மைப் பிரித்து, நம்மை நம்பி இருக்கும் பலரை அனாதையாக்கிவிடும் என்பதை அனைத்து குடிமகனும் நன்கு அறிவார்கள்.
குடிப்பவன் போதையில் உணர்வை இழப்பான், சுயசிந்தனையை இழப்பான். இவர்களுக்கு இழப்புக்கள் மட்டுமே சொந்தமாக இருக்கும்.
நாட்டின் தூண்களாகிய இளைஞர்கள் பலர் இன்று இருட்டறைகளில் புகை மேகத்திற்கு மத்தியில் போதையில் மிதந்து கொண்டிருக்கிறார்களே. ஏன்?
அன்பு நீரைப் போன்றது. நீரை எந்த குவளையில் ஊற்றுகிறோமோ அந்த வடிவத்தைப் பெறுவது போல் அன்பும் தாயிடம் பாசமாகவும், மனைவியிடம் காதலாகவும், நண்பனிடம் நட்பாகவும், பிள்ளைகளிடம் கண்டிப்பாகவும் வெவ்வேறு வடிவங்களில் வெளிப்படுகிறது.
நன்நிலத்தில் தூவப்பட்ட விதைகள் பயன் தருவதைப் போல் உங்களால் விதைக்கப்படும் அன்பும் மகிழ்சியான வாழ்வைத் தரும். மகிழ்சியைத் தேடி நாம் ஓடாத இடம் இல்லை. ஒவ்வொருவருக்கும் இது ஒவ்வொரு இடத்தில் கிடைக்கிறது. சிலருக்கு வீட்டில், சிலருக்கு கோவிலில், சிலருக்கு கடற்கரையில், சிலருக்கு கடைகளில்.
கடைகளில் விற்கப்படும் சந்தோசம் (போதை வஸ்துகள், சிகரெட்) சிறிது நாட்களில் நம்மை அடிமைப்படுத்தி சகநண்பர்ககளிடம் இருந்தும், மானுட வாழ்கையிலிருந்தும் நம்மைப் பிரித்து, நம்மை நம்பி இருக்கும் பலரை அனாதையாக்கிவிடும் என்பதை அனைத்து குடிமகனும் நன்கு அறிவார்கள்.
குடிப்பவன் போதையில் உணர்வை இழப்பான், சுயசிந்தனையை இழப்பான். இவர்களுக்கு இழப்புக்கள் மட்டுமே சொந்தமாக இருக்கும்.
நாட்டின் தூண்களாகிய இளைஞர்கள் பலர் இன்று இருட்டறைகளில் புகை மேகத்திற்கு மத்தியில் போதையில் மிதந்து கொண்டிருக்கிறார்களே. ஏன்?
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